Boy or girl?
That’s a common enough question if you’re an expectant parent. You might have even wondered it yourself: Will you need pink things or blue, and what name will you choose? For generations, it’s been an exciting moment of discovery for prospective parents, but Ann Travers asks in The Trans Generation whether letting the child decide would be a better choice.
Fifty-six years ago, when Travers was born, their mother’s doctor unwittingly caused a lifetime of hurt. “It’s a girl,” he said, and Travers, whose preferred pronoun is they, spent years trying to “untangle” what it meant. That, they said, is part of what drives this book. The other part is the desire to improve the lives of trans kids through understanding.
Getting to that point is harrowing: Ninety-five percent of transgender kids in one study felt unsafe in their schools. Many report that physicians misunderstand kids who are gender-nonconforming. Trans kids attempt suicide and/or self-harm at very high rates and, says Travers, “many grow up hating their bodies.” Most employ several kinds of coping mechanisms to live their lives.
Travers is an associate professor in the Department of Sociology & Anthropology at Simon Fraser University in Canada. In writing this book, Travers says, they interviewed a wide variety of trans kids from the United States and Canada – 19 in all, ages 4 to 20, plus 23 parents. The children mostly came from middle-class families, which allowed them privileges such as better access to medical care and chances to change schools if they needed to do so.
Other children that Travers interviewed lived in poverty, their stories illustrating how being a trans kid can be socially and medically isolating and how lack of access to needed resources can affect such children’s well-being.
Parents, of course, can affect that well-being, too, but it takes a “phenomenal amount of care, advocacy, and activism … to push back against cisgendered environments,” schools, sports, binary-only bathrooms, social activities, medical facilities, and politics. It takes a willingness to learn, listen, and lean in. Not just for parents, but for teachers, advocates, and loved ones, The Trans Generation is one heavy-duty book.
Writing with a bit of a scholar’s voice and occasional, relatively advanced science and law studies, the author also offers readers plenty of eye-opening chats with trans kids, which turn out to be the most helpful, useful, and even entertaining parts of this book. Those interviews give insights that adults will find to be wise and thoughtful, even monumental. They’re also heartbreaking, but considering the kids that readers are introduced to and the singular interview with a 16-year-old who made her own hormone treatments in her high school’s laboratory, they’re a good indication of hope for the future.
Although you could be forgiven for skipping to those case studies, you’d be missing out. The thicker parts of The Trans Generation are worth reading and reflecting on. They are deeply instructive on pronouns, on gender fluidity, and on being transgender in a cisgender-based society. They are also serious and weighty, but that kind of rock-solid information could make this book the right choice.